My windows firewall is turned off, and yes, all of the port forwarding (only the ports used for specific services) are being forwarded by my wifi router.
Anyways, I found the issue was with my DHCP settings. I turned DHCP serving off on my router, and on on my server. it was the other way around.
now the only issue is incoming traffic cannot see my website. I have port 80 forwarded to my server, but no go. I was looking in the config settings on SME, and wondered: right now, the gateway IP address is set to 192.168.1.1, which is how I connect to my router (or the gateway in this case... right)
but then, on my router's configuration page, it lists the gateway IP address as something else (and is is able to be inputed by the user as something else)
my router is set to a static IP, which rather than getting the IP settings from the ISP, lets you type stuff in.
anyways, should SME be using THAT gateway IP address?