Thanks for the tip
After thinking on this subject some more, I've concluded on a few things, which I could be wrong about, but this is what I've concluded
If I plug the SME server into my all in one cable/modem/router, and assign my static IP to the server, then I have no firewall for my local network
If I enable the firewall in the all in one cable/modem/router then I have to enable the DHCP server of the router otherwise the firewall does not work.
So I've choosen what appears to be more logical for my use, installed second NIC and went back to the gateway concept.
New hardware config:
Pluged the SME box eth1(external)NIC-to the all in one cable/modem router, and turned off the firewall and dhcp server in the router
Then pluged the SME box eth0(internal)NIC-to another router(standard port not uplink port) then from this router to the local nework computers(and made sure that this routers DHCP server and firewall are also turned off.
This is now setup as SME (public) gateway/server mode
Additionally the SME eth1(external)NIC is assigned my static IP address given to me by my ISP by using the console of the SME box under Local Network parameters I entered the static IP here(Local Network Parameters)
Then Local subnet mask given to me by ISP under (Local subnet mask for this server)
Then gateway IP given by ISP
Then internal eth0 setup DHCP server (ON) to provide IP addresses to the internal network
And now all is working perfectly as it should
I can access server-manager, the website works, the webmail works etc.
I do thank everyone for the help and I feel bad that I could not seem to get it working properly as a server only mode, but it appeared to have more obsticals then I initially anticipated. Or more likley that I just do not have the experience thus far to get it working as it should
Thanks again and hip hip hurray to the Contrib.org community
Another successful SME Server up and running!!
And a few referals that want their own webserver and webmail like mine
