Hi guys, finally I found the problem, now the story:
My server is a new dell PowerEdge T300, full of ram and space and all that stuff, but also with two NICs, which when I installed the SME 7.x connect via the bonding option on the configuration panel.
Somehow, the problem was that the kernell can not understand wich of the NICs should be use when a request comes, so it takes a lot of time for him to figure it till the answer is ready, causing, delays, latency and the Icmp checksum is wrong.
I google it a little and it is something called the The ARP Flux Problem (
http://linux-ip.net/html/ether-arp.html - Scroll almost to the end.) it happends When a linux box is connected to a network segment with multiple network cards, a potential problem with the link layer address to IP address mapping can occur.
So after I unplug one of the NICs, reconfigure the server to unset the bonding, everthing start working fine.
I asume there is a problem with some kind of cache, because the first configuration with the two NICs was done like 4 months ago, and it was working fine, but after some time it starts to fail a little every day, till two days ago was impossible to reach any server outside the box.
Thanks for the help and the suggestions, I hope this solution could help other people.