In the situation mentioned above, how would I install SME server so that all three disks are used, and is that at all possible?
Hi
my suggestion is to setup SME with all the hds connected and with the "nospare" (check the syntax) option..
in this case you should have a 3 disks RAID 5 array with about 320 GB of space..
let's say:
160 GB hd is A
250 GB hd is B
320 GB hd is C
in the above mentioned scenario, A will be fully used, while B and C will have some unpartitioned space (about 90 GB for B and about 160 GB for C)
with the unpartitioned space you can create an RAID1 array of... 80 GB and then move /var to it
at the end you'll have almost 320 Gb for your i-bays and user's home dir, with the security that all the partitions are in raid
a bit complicated, but interesting, isn't it?

naturally you can avoid the second array..
my 2c
Stefano