gbentley
I am only using the box for a local mail server [not proxy / gw etc] so at a brief look dont think this would help me.
If the server is not the gateway then shaping will not help much on that server, you have to do that in the gateway/router
The qmail settings I advised
ie
config setprop qmail ConcurrencyRemote 5
signal-event email-update
will definitely slow down (or defer) the mail & the result is less bandwidth usage at any point in time, which is essentially what you requested, try it & see, it will only take 2 minutes to implement.
To return to standard settings do
config delprop qmail ConcurrencyRemote
signal-event email-update
which just allows the templates to use the default value (40) when there is no other value specified in the config database