Hi Marco,
What type of files are your trying to backup ? Are they compressible and if so, do you expect them to be partially compressible, moderately compressible or highly compressible ?
Usually, when a backup software reports it has written xxx number of bytes to tape, that's the amount that is physically transferred to and stored on the tape, not necessarily the amount that's backed up.
Say for example you have 12 GB of data that's a mix of moderately compressible and highly compressible files, and by running those files through a gzip process you end up with 8GB of compressed data, some tape backup software will report that is has written 8GB of data to the tape and not 12GB of data, you just need to know for your particular software (sorry, given up on flexbackup so I don't know for sure).
If your data is mostly picture files and mp3 music (which won't be compressed) or other files that don't compress much, then, you will only get at most 10GB (perhaps slightly more) of storage and not 20GB.
Unfortunately, flexbackup does not support multi tape spans (the newer flexbackup might, I don't know). Perhaps give the arkeia contrib a try. At least when the first tape fills up, it is ejected and you can then insert a second tape and ask arkeia to continue through the server manager, and not just abort the entire backup.
Kelvin