Thanks for the advice.
Ray I would rather use e-smih as my mail server, so is there no other solution, if not i guess will have to consider re-routing through the BT mail server.
I am already using a static IP issued by BT, so I don't really understand why my emails are being filtered as junk. is there a way of registering yourself as a legitamate sender of email? I have given up trying to send email to AOL ages ago because it is always rejected saying I am using a residental dynamic IP, even though I have a static one, which makes no sense to me!!