I found a way to fanangle tcpwrapper into doing it for you. I'm heading to bed now, but I'll write it up tomorrow. Note, this does not solve my solution, because I am essentially needing to block ALL incoming traffic, but not incoming traffic with intent to send (like from my users, using it as their SMTP relay). Essentially, you edit the tcp.smtp tcpwrapper file, put in the ip (or range) you want blocked, then put a colon and deny, like this:
123.123.123.123:deny
then rebuild the tcp.smtp.cbd file.
Pretty easy, but I'll make it more descriptive tomorrow.