I know how you feel.
I have installed and configured sme server since v5.5.
i have a handful of clients, running on sme 24x7 as their primary mail, and file servers.
I can barely install spamassassin and clamav from dungog and swerts-knudsen. they ask for donations, and its well worth it. especially compared to microsoft small business server, which i've deployed in the past, and have not since 2000.
I use the server-manager web interface. i can run some sh shell scripts to do installs, but not much more.
The best, is to ask, one problem/question at a time in the forums, and then to implement them. They usually provide good answers, and links to instructions, so its hard to go wrong.
I'll let you in on a industry secret. A medical industry secret.
I have ties to a medical facility. I work with a lot of doctors. One thing doctors dont appreciate, is when a patient comes in, with a gigantic problem list, from headaches, to bed wetting, to acne.
Yes, a professional doctor should address every concern you may have, but realistically, they are human, and they too, can get overwhelmed, and annoyed.
Thus, what you want to do, is to PRIORITIZE.
You want to come in with just the top 2 or 3 ailments you have now. and save the rest for some other time. or google them and find the solution yourself. you will be surprised at how effective and how good the rapport with your doc will be. This is in the USA, where our medical insurance system dictates it to be this way...
That's the reality dude. And apply it to SME as well.