Hi CharlieBrady hi Boss_hog,
replying to Charlie:
1) Yes. I can ssh to the other server from within the local lan on the specified port (49152)
2) Honestly I don't know. I tried to tcpdump to see what happens and I 'think' SME does not forward correctly. (any tips to check it better are really welcome because I can't believe it's a bug on SME)
3) Yes. To explain better: with the other configuration, the one with the Netgear in the middle, the rules were set up on the Netgear, not on the SME server. With this kind of setup, I was able to ssh through the Netgear to the other machine, using Internet off course.
Replying to Boss_hog:
I don't know how it's running. I 'think' it's not in router mode because the ISP supplied the access, the ADSL modem AND the router, as well as one static IP for the router and the default gateway (which is the modem). What I did was to take off the router and replace it with the SME, assigning the static IP to it, the default gateway (the modem) and the netmask. This way SME is working correctly, I can log on the webmail and the server-manager interface from here (Italy) to there (Copenhagen).
Thanks for now. Any suggestions welcome.