I think I have done same thing - I mean moved gateway mode on SME away -and now mail server have some problems on getting mail send from away mail-servers.
The port is properly forwarded on my router, and when the mail is going to be sent-in to SME the TCP connection isn't properly setup. The SME does sent ACK packege after getting SYN from away-server but this answer never gets to that server and connection stays half-open. These packeges are however forwarded through router, but disappears somewere later on.
To make things even more funny only my ISP mail-server can send-in mails to my SME machine.
Moreover POP3 works well from SME -> I can download messages out of my local network, and I can send mails form SMTP on SME machine to whatever server I want.
I have no idea where the problem is, but I need to investigate it.
If so knows what is the matter I would apprieciate any help