Ok, I'm a green horn and I've done a ton of looking around and I cant make this thing work on the lan interface

Ive tried the following commands:
config setprop mysqld LocalNetworkingOnly no
# /sbin/e-smith/expand-template /etc/my.cnf
# /etc/rc.d/init.d/supervise/mysqld stop
Stopping mysqld: [ OK ]
# /etc/rc.d/init.d/supervise/mysqld start
Starting mysqld: [ OK ]
when I netstat -ln | grep mysql
I get this :
unix 2 [ ACC ] STREAM LISTENING 12819 /var/lib/mysql/mysql.sock
isnt the 12819 the port ? - when I try to connect on it I get 100061 error on the connector
After doing this I still get the following error on the MySQL ODBC 3.51 connector when I test
Access denied for user 'username'@
'pc-00130.domain.com' (using password: YES)
one question I have is the @'pc-00130.domain.com' is not the database name I entered into the connector setup?
I'LL GLADLY ACCEPT ANY PITTY FROM SOME ONE OF KNOLEDGE
