My server is set up to only accept SSL port 465 which is the safest but is this RFC compliant?
Does this answer your question?
grep '465/tcp' /etc/services
The 'smtps' entry in /etc/services is ubiquitous, and was originally specified in
http://www.iana.org/assignments/port-numbers. You will notice there now, however, that port 465 has been re-assigned to 'urd':
urd 465/tcp URL Rendesvous Directory for SSM
You can read some background at
http://www.rickk.com/sslwrap/ So, in summary, port 465 has never been RFC specified, but the port was assigned for the SSL wrapped SMTP service by IANA (following the recommendation of the Netscape SSL v3.0 draft date back in 1996), but no longer is assigned to that service. Port 465 for SSL wrapped SMTP is still a very widely deployed convention.
Here's some more background:
http://www.irbs.net/internet/postfix/0710/0880.htmlP.S. You owe me a few beers for doing your research for you.