I don't think you can turn of or disable or remove the mail server as it is a neccessary part of the complete system.
What I actually use to do myself in such situation, where I want a service that has to be there "invisible" and unaccessable from the outside, is to "lock it in" via the firewall. But firewall hacks can be "hot stuff" on the SME forum.
Question to administrators/moderators: Could this be an ok way to do it, if there could be found a "mailserver firewall lock-off method" for the mail ports that is OK and according to the documentation. Could/should it be other or bether ways to do it ?
(I have done it like this myself, for some years, but I don't know if it is considered to be a "best practice".)
.. Dont know if this were the wrong answer and if someone else will send the right one ..
.. By the way .. I have checked the DB config variables for the qmail, and technically, it looks like it can be turned off .. but I would not expect this to be a vice thing to do .. ??