hi, welcome here.
you'd tell us what are you trying to achieve and why.. as you (maybe) have seen in the 3ad you linked, such an information is usefull for debug purpose
anyway, ATM and AFAIK, there's no way to to it without editing qpsmtpd core as suggested
regarding the idea of moving from qmail to $whatever, I observ that such a feature is inside qpsmtpd and so qmail is not involved.. movig to postfix, exim or another mta requires a full rewriting of all email related fragments/templates/events.. in other word, tha answer is "yes, but it won't be easy nor implemented here nor supported here"