HI Stefano,
it is an SME 9.1 is in server only mode, used as a mail server (SMTP) behind a router. It is fully updated. The only only extra is the vacation message contrib.
Yep the remote host is the receiving mail server, not mine. The funny thing is that is you put a soft fail "~a", then everything works perfectly, with a hard fail "-a" I receive that message, (NDR) from all outgoing mail.
I checked MX/A/PTR records and everything is OK..
thanks
gb