my guess - despite you have tons of whatelse you have run out of swap.
say version 6.0.x did make 256MB swapspace. Version 6.5 (clean install) does make 1 GB swap. so if you did 6.0 series instal -and even if you made the upgrade to something later it still is 256 MB. After iot runs out of memory (buffers fills in) and the swap - no more processes may be initiated. Some of them are being suspended and some strange things do happen.
my guess is to open console - start top and see if zombies starpt appearing after free memory and free swap drops close to zero then it is that.
by saying that the log is megabytes - what is it full of ? say you may be suffering a dos attack.
2 more questions -1. what is the point of such a massive caching?
2.what kind of raid are you using (successfully) with sme? if it works for you it may work for me
